This is way cute, I hope I can do these things one day with my significant other.
This is way cute, I hope I can do these things one day with my significant other.
ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?”
In all seriousness, she answered “How did you know?”
“Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.” replied the author.
Here’s the answer:
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, I was swept of my feet. Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this)
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: the universe determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go!
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This is so serious. If you care about someone, fucking care about them. Remember it every day. Remember it on bad days especially. Remember it in fights. Remember it when you’re happy. Appreciate it. Love it. Be it. Live it. Feel it. Cause you have no idea when it will be gone. There are only so many chances. And if you do forget and you do something stupid. You’d better fucking fight for it, fucking fight as hard as you can. As hard as you can doesn’t mean until it is a detriment to you, but until you’re sure it won’t be. True love will always be true love and if you lose it, you’re going to regret it.
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If you love someone, you should probably tell them. It’s not enough to hope they’ll be able to see it in your eyes, or feel it in the lines of your bare palms, because hope, like so many other things, doesn’t equate to reality. But you have to feel those three words first, and not just in the skin-level sense of the word. You have to feel them so deeply they go beneath the epidermis and into the muscle, through the muscle and into the blood and marrow. They have to burrow themselves in every cell and spread so rapidly and so far that everything is immersed in them, like the tectonic plates of Pangaea sinking slowly into the depths of the ocean.
If you love someone, you should probably tell them. Maybe you’re scared or anxious or nervous or terrified, or a dozen other versions of that first word. Maybe your fierce pride is keeping you from admitting the fact that deep down, in the furthest and sharpest stalactites of your ice-cold heart, it’s beginning to melt a little bit. Or maybe you have that very rare, unfortunate problem of projectile-vomiting right as you’re about to say something very profound and deeply moving. Either way, the terror of saying those three tiny yet hugely intimidating words is significantly smaller than the immense terror of falling in love, and you’ve already cleared that hurdle. Compared to falling in love, which is like bungee jumping into an infinite abyss filled with the flames of hell and the deepest pits of Arctic ice combined, saying I Love You is like falling into that same abyss, only there’s no ice or fire and it’s actually finite.
If you love someone, you should probably tell them. After all, the universe isn’t static. Things can change. Even if they reject your feelings outright, you still have time to win them over. Or if victory isn’t your thing, then maybe it’s time for you to move on and find someone else. After all, at any given moment in time, the fabric of the universe is constantly stretching and shifting and lifting, re-folding itself and tucking in its corners in thousands of complex new ways, thereby generating thousands of possible new combinations of individuals for you to fall in love with instead. And falling in love more than once, whether it’s only twice or three times or even four hundred and fifty times, is better than falling in love a single time because the feeling is magnified. You get to experience the first time all over again. So even if you tell someone you love them and it doesn’t work out, there are still so many more chances left to take.
If you love someone, you should probably tell them. You could dramatically alter the course of your entire life. Just like the night sky contains billions and billions of stars, supernovas, black holes, red dwarfs, you name it- those three words could change billions and billions of aspects of your life, no matter how minuscule or mundane some of them are. Instead of waking up alone to an empty house, eating cold cereal or lukewarm toast with congealed butter in ugly grey slippers by yourself in the kitchen, you could wake up next to the only person you’ve ever loved in your entire life, buried in the warmth of their neck, and end up eating breakfast in bed with them, spilling crumbs all over the sheets you’ll later have slow, lazy morning sex on. If you tell the person you love that you love them, maybe you won’t be afflicted by winter depression anymore because this person’s love will warm you up, or you’ll finally have someone to come home to, or maybe you’ll even end up smiling at least one more time a day than you usually do.
If you love someone, you should probably tell them. Because maybe, just maybe, they’re in love with you too.
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exams and term papers got you stressed out and run down? well just remember, no matter how poorly you do, and no matter how much better everyone else does, no one is getting a job when they graduate
I was studying today and let me just explain that the set-up of the room is just tables everywhere, relatively quiet for the most part but it’s not frowned upon if people are having a conversation. So at some point in my study session with my friend this guy walks in, sits down, studies, buys a drink, studies some more. A little later another girl walks in and she sits at the table in front of this guy. She settled in, spoke to him to say hello and then went back to her work. I began to notice how he kept looking up and at first I just thought he was just that bored but then as I was finishing up and getting ready to leave, he got up, sat beside the girl in front of him and began to hold her and they spoke for a bit then he went back to his seat and they both studied separately again. That’s when it dawned on me that these two were a couple and were being responsible and getting shit done. I wish I could have told her that her boyfriend thinks the world of her because it also dawned on me that he kept looking up to look at her.
I just thought it was absolutely fucking awesome. I envy that couple, way 2 go guys. Good job.